Jesus, Marriage, & Hamburger Helper

Ahhh, marriage… Tis so much more than that beautiful white dress, the romance of a honeymoon and those sweet moments of snuggling on the couch.

Marriage also includes challenges, growth, conflict, and on days when all of those things are present, sometimes hamburger helper for supper.

Truth in marriage. Just kidding.
We love each other. Kind of a lot.

Before I dive into today’s blog post on marriage, I have a disclaimer: First of all, the following story is not a “wawhoo-they-have-a-great-marriage” story. It is actually a “wawhoo-we-worship-an-incredible-God-and-we-are-so-thankful-He-is-the-center-of-our-marriage-and-yes-we-still-have-a-long-way-to-go” story. Also, I am not a huge advocate of airing “dirty laundry” in public forums like a blog for all the world to see, but this was such a remarkable testimony to God’s faithfulness that I couldn’t NOT share. (Plus it’s not really that dirty of laundry anyways.)

Oh, and a bit of background for those of you who might be new to this locale: My sweet hubby Brandon is a drill sergeant with the United States Infantry. We have been married for two wonderful (and educational) years.

A couple of weeks ago was “FTX” time in my husband’s training cycle as a drill sergeant. FTX stands for “Field training Exercise” which is code for “let’s go do profound infantry things out in the bushes for a week so these boys can officially be soldiers.” As a wife, sometimes I think FTX actually stands for “Frequently a Time of Exasperation.” But I digress. So he left for FTX with the intention of coming home at least one night out of the 4 or 5 nights that he would be in the field. However, due to some new “rules,” this theory was flushed away on day one… I took it well (thanks, Jesus!) and prepared myself for a week of flying solo.

That was Monday. By Tuesday morning, his phone had died, because someone didn’t take his wife’s suggestion to make sure it was fully charged on Sunday night “just in case.” (I’m a huge advocate of communication.) So, the week wore on with no way to communicate– not a half-second “I love you” text or “Yep, still alive” text. I spent my time working and hanging out with Jesus to stave off loneliness and attacks by The Enemy.

Long story still long, my dear husband was planning on being home mid-day Thursday ish. I went to work. And came home. No sign of him. No word from him. I started on supper, confused, a wee bit frustrated (seriously, it wasn’t bad at this point.) I was making a simple, homemade version of hamburger helper (not out of the box, but very similar.) As I was working over the stove, my phone rang. It was my husband. My heart flopped with glee! Finally!

I answered and he sounded exhausted. I excitedly asked if he was en route homeward. Negative. My heart sank. My frustration with his job in the army grew. It had been a rough day (ok, week) for him. But as we talked, my womanly (pregnant) hormones took over. I could hear my voice rising as I stirred supper faster and faster. Brandon asked for me to pray for him– for patience to make it through the next several hours, with his co-workers, with the entire situation. I snapped back at him “Um, I HAVE been praying for you. ALL WEEK.” (Classy, I know. Sigh.)

His voice cracked as he said “No, seriously, Sharita. I NEED you to pray for me.”

My heart switch flipped. The tears were rolling as I dropped my spoon on the counter and headed to the living room. I knelt down on my knees, leaning on the couch. I started to pray. Out loud. On the phone.

Guess what? Jesus. Showed. Up.

I learned that it is impossible to be ticked off when you are legitimately in the presence of God. I prayed for us with my beloved on the other end of the line. By the time I got done, my heart was lighter. My tears had stopped. His voice sounded stronger.

This post is not to say that our marriage is perfect (it’s not) or that we have it all figured out (we don’t.) But it is a testimony to the power and presence of God… How do you invite Christ into your everyday life? Has He shown up and shown out lately? In what ways? I love to hear from you… Leave your comments below.

I praise God for His incredible faithfulness. What could have been a knock-down-drag-out-pouty-tearful-unChristlike moment in our marriage turned into a sweet, redeeming memory of focus on God and love for each other with a simple prayer that all started with  Jesus… And hamburger helper.

Jesus is OUR helper,

“I do want to point out, friends, that time is of the essence. There is no time to waste, so don’t complicate your lives unnecessarily. Keep it simple—in marriage, grief, joy, whatever. Even in ordinary things—your daily routines of shopping, and so on. Deal as sparingly as possible with the things the world thrusts on you. This world as you see it is on its way out.” ~1 Corinthians 7:29-31 MSG

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12 thoughts on “Jesus, Marriage, & Hamburger Helper

  1. I’m so glad he didn’t get grumpy backatcha, but rather stressed that he needed prayer.
    I hope and pray that we remember to pray before we snap. Hopefully it takes less than YEARS for me to get that right… It feels like it could take years – my mouth opens before my brain has time to process.

    • That is one (of many!) awesome things I can say about my husband… He is SOOOO patient with me. Seriously, it blows my mind. (And makes my heart rejoice!) It is so cool to see God continue to ACTIVELY work in all areas of our lives, especially in our marriage. I know that we will never reach perfection (we are big ol’ sinners after all) but I am hopeful for simply faithful obedience.

      Thanks so much for your comment– you always bless me when you stop by 🙂

  2. Jervaun

    Okay…my first thought was, “She’s gonna burn the hamburger helper.” Beautiful story of dealing with disappointments. When our expectations are not met, we can EXPECT God to be there. That is so awesome.

    • Funny, Jervaun– that was MY first thought too 🙂 And amen to expectations– God meets ALL our needs and He is the one who fills us up! Thanks a million for stopping by!!

  3. Thanks for sharing – these are the stories I need to hear to know that none of our marriages are perfect and that we all struggle from time to time.

    • Oh sister– we are so far from perfect! (It’s like we are all sinners or something. SIGH!) But in our imperfection, God’s glory can be displayed–because He IS perfect. Thanks for stopping by and congrats again on your 3 yr blogoversary!!

  4. This is a great story of how quickly things can change when we turn to prayer. Oh–and I LOVE the wedding pic!

    • The power of prayer rocks my socks off… And thanks– it is one of our funniest (and most memorable) wedding pics!

  5. Sharita…your post was lovely and such a true picture we married all face, no matter the years. So very thankful for soldiers like your man…one who knows he needs prayer. Blessings.

    • Thank you so much, Betty– God continues to grow us and shape us in many ways… and seems to use the army as a primary refining tool. Can’t wait to see where He takes us!

  6. simplyhelpinghim

    Oh how wonderful our Savior truly is! He always shows up when we need Him, when we are at the end of ourselves! Thank you for sharing and for linking up at Simply Helping Him 🙂 Blessings!

    • Amen, girl!! Praising Him that He IS Emmanuel, God WITH us… all the time. Even over hamburger helper 🙂

      PS: I’m enjoying your link up!

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