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How to Deal: “Rug Rippers” (Repost)

We’ve all been there. We finally feel like we’ve gotten our balance. We are walking on solid ground. Things might not be going absolutely grandiose perfecto, but they are going. We take what we can get and relish the stability. When suddenly…

WHOMP!!!  Someone (or something) rips the rug right out from underneath us.

Yep. We all have ’em in our lives. Those dreaded people/things that knock us completely off-balance and throw things out of whack.

I “fondly” call them the “rug-ripper-outters-from-underneath-us-ow-that-hurts.” That’s kind of a long name to refer back to in a blog post, so for the purposes of this post, I will refer to those people/events/things as “Rug Rippers” aka R-squared for short.

Sometimes we go from keeping our balance-- to falling down the stairs... Or tripping when the rug is ripped right out from under us.

If only we could have as much fun as this guy when we lose our balance…

Depending on the season of life, I seem to have a lot of rug-ripping moments. Sure, I bet some of that can be contributed to the fact that I am incredibly uncoordinated and trip UP the stairs on a regular occasion… but it also comes with the territory of being a Christian, an army wife, a minister, a friend…

Heck, just LIVING and BREATHING sometimes seems to be the ultimate set up for a rug-ripping experience.

It happened to my hubby and I last Friday night at 10pm. We were finishing up an evening of  rare together time at a holiday military function. All in all, it was a decent night and we were treasuring the time we had with one another. Things were going smoothly, we had survived another rough phase in army life over the last month or so. PRAISE. GOD.

Then a few unexpected phone calls and some changed (yet previously un-communicated) schedules later, the rug was ripped right out from underneath us. WHOMP!! 

We were faced with a decision. Do we let this unexpected circumstance derail all of the blessings that we experienced from God in the previous hours? Or do we somehow engineer a way to recover from our frustration?

We silently pondered (ok, steamed would probably be a better word for me) for a few minutes. We arrived home and I found myself in a battle– my flesh was frustrated and ticked, the Enemy was all up in my Kool-aid trying to get me to be upset at my husband even though he had about as much control over the situation as I did. All the while, God was telling me what I should do: Release it to Him.

Barn and I headed to bed shortly thereafter. We have a policy not to go to bed angry so we talked and vented for a while (fortunately, we managed not to get tick at each other– thanks, Jesus.) And then my Beloved suggested the perfect remedy to restore our balance that the R-squared event caused.

“Sharita… I know it’s really hard and we might not feel like it right now. But let’s pray about this.”

Confession: There was not a single bone in my body that desired to pray. I mean, I was MAD. Fortunately, there WAS a spot in my heart that KNEW I had to… So we prayed. Together. Out loud.

As we said amen, our balance was restored. Not even kidding. Immediate. And even with the jacked-up schedule we were facing the next day, our weekend wasn’t “ruined.”

I have continued reflect on this “rug-ripping” experience. And God gave me this vision. We live in a fallen world. Which means we are ALL going to be knocked of balance from all directions.  Picture it:

If the rug is ripped out from behind us… we end up falling forward… On our knees.

If the rug is ripped out from in front of us… We end up flat on our backs, wind knocked out of us… peering towards the heavens.

Both positions are IDEAL to pray, taking the issue or circumstance to God.

It might take a hot minute (or twelve) for us to recover from our fall. But if we go to God– He will help us back to our feet.  He WILL restore us. AND our balance.

No matter how big, unexpected or painful your rug-ripping experience is… God is sovereign over all. Nothing surprises Him. And when we are at our most unbalanced and weakest– that is when we are closest to God.

Restored Daily,
SGK

“He got us out of the mess we’re in and restored us to where he always wanted us to be. And he did it by means of Jesus Christ.” ~Romans 3:24 MSG

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Redefining Balance

Balance. It can be such a “heavy” word. (Pun intended.)

2013 is looking like it could be a shake-up year– not in a bad way, but with a new (aka our first) baby on the way and 2,800 mile move per duty station change looming quickly there after, things could get interesting.

Perhaps you are facing a similar year. (Or had one of those last year.) We aren’t facing our future with fear– which we are thrilled about– but rather just awareness that this might not be easy.

However. It will be worth it. Of THAT we are confident!

As I was pondering the glory of God in the future (so excited!) the idea of “balance” kept resurfacing. This subconscious thought/concern with maintaining balance in our lives was brought to my attention as I was being coached for my spiritual leadership coaching certification by my dear friend Susan.

Between her and Jesus, I learned some pretty profound truths. And maybe, just maybe, they apply to you.

See, we are all faced with the world’s ideal of what “balance” truly is… Keeping everything in order, all things being equal. Minimizing changes, giving the same amount of time, dedication and heart to all things in our life. And usually we think of that in “small picture language” aka, what happens in a day’s time frame.

My heart concern was figuring out how to “balance” having a baby, moving across the country, all while still doing ministry, being a strong wife, a solid follower in Christ, getting back into shape etc, etc… However, Susan challenged me to redefine what “balance” really meant from a heavenly perspective.

And here’s what I came up with– or rather what Jesus revealed to me.

He gave me a couple of visual images… The first one I scribbled in my journal… then recreated on my iPad, freehand for purposes of this post. (Don’t judge my lack of artistic abilities. My forte is ministry and writing. Not DoodlePad drawing. 🙂 )

DoodleBuddyiPad Balance

Now, before you completely check out per my terrible freehand skills, let me explain this image. It is a scale-balance thingymajig. On either side of the scale are the “things” and influencing factors in life… Specifics could be changing seasons, good (or not so good) circumstances, feelings, people, emotions– you get the picture. From a worldly perspective, we sometimes end up standing on either side, our hearts being driven by the circumstances or emotions. THAT is when we end up unbalanced.

But the image that God gave me was this: Those “sides” are always going to be bouncing up and down, moving all over the place. HOWEVER… That middle point of this scale (called the fulcrum, for all you physics/sciencey folks) is ALWAYS stable no matter what is going on at either end. God is to be my fulcrum. My word for 2013 is STAND… So if I stand on the fulcrum, I keep my balance. No. Matter. What. God is the foundation– and the SOURCE of true balance.

Pretty cool huh??

The other image He gave me was even simpler, yet just as profound. (Sorry, no freehand scribble for this one.) I saw a balance beam, like used in gymnastics. And in order to keep my balance, all I had to do was keep ahold of His hand. (He was my spotter.)

Talk about a redefinition of balance! Balance isn’t when all things are equal or treated the same or constant. Instead, it is when we are STANDING on a solid surface– like God as our fulcrum in the scales… Or holding His hand as we walk along the balance beam path He has laid out for us.

What is your definition of balance? Do you struggle with it in life? In what areas? How does this “new” definition of balance change your perspective? Be bold and let me know in the comment section below.

Here’s to keeping our balance with Him,
SGK

“Honest scales and balances are from the Lord; all the weights in the bag are of his making.” ~Proverbs 16:11

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How to Deal: “Rug Rippers”

We’ve all been there. We finally feel like we’ve gotten our balance. We are walking on solid ground. Things might not be going absolutely grandiose perfecto, but they are going. We take what we can get and relish the stability. When suddenly…

WHOMP!!!  Someone (or something) rips the rug right out from underneath us.

Yep. We all have ’em in our lives. Those dreaded people/things that knock us completely off-balance and throw things out of whack.

I “fondly” call them the “rug-ripper-outters-from-underneath-us-ow-that-hurts.” That’s kind of a long name to refer back to in a blog post, so for the purposes of this post, I will refer to those people/events/things as “Rug Rippers” aka R-squared for short.

Sometimes we go from keeping our balance-- to falling down the stairs... Or tripping when the rug is ripped right out from under us.

If only we could have as much fun as this guy when we lose our balance… 

Depending on the season of life, I seem to have a lot of rug-ripping moments. Sure, I bet some of that can be contributed to the fact that I am incredibly uncoordinated and trip UP the stairs on a regular occasion… but it also comes with the territory of being a Christian, an army wife, a minister, a friend…

Heck, just LIVING and BREATHING sometimes seems to be the ultimate set up for a rug-ripping experience.

It happened to my hubby and I last Friday night at 10pm. We were finishing up an evening of  rare together time at a holiday military function. All in all, it was a decent night and we were treasuring the time we had with one another. Things were going smoothly, we had survived another rough phase in army life over the last month or so. PRAISE. GOD.

Then a few unexpected phone calls and some changed (yet previously un-communicated) schedules later, the rug was ripped right out from underneath us. WHOMP!! 

We were faced with a decision. Do we let this unexpected circumstance derail all of the blessings that we experienced from God in the previous hours? Or do we somehow engineer a way to recover from our frustration?

We silently pondered (ok, steamed would probably be a better word for me) for a few minutes. We arrived home and I found myself in a battle– my flesh was frustrated and ticked, the Enemy was all up in my Kool-aid trying to get me to be upset at my husband even though he had about as much control over the situation as I did. All the while, God was telling me what I should do: Release it to Him.

Barn and I headed to bed shortly thereafter. We have a policy not to go to bed angry so we talked and vented for a while (fortunately, we managed not to get tick at each other– thanks, Jesus.) And then my Beloved suggested the perfect remedy to restore our balance that the R-squared event caused.

“Sharita… I know it’s really hard and we might not feel like it right now. But let’s pray about this.”

Confession: There was not a single bone in my body that desired to pray. I mean, I was MAD. Fortunately, there WAS a spot in my heart that KNEW I had to… So we prayed. Together. Out loud.

As we said amen, our balance was restored. Not even kidding. Immediate. And even with the jacked-up schedule we were facing the next day, our weekend wasn’t “ruined.”

I have continued reflect on this “rug-ripping” experience. And God gave me this vision. We live in a fallen world. Which means we are ALL going to be knocked of balance from all directions.  Picture it:

If the rug is ripped out from behind us… we end up falling forward… On our knees.

If the rug is ripped out from in front of us… We end up flat on our backs, wind knocked out of us… peering towards the heavens.

Both positions are IDEAL to pray, taking the issue or circumstance to God.

It might take a hot minute (or twelve) for us to recover from our fall. But if we go to God– He will help us back to our feet.  He WILL restore us. AND our balance.

No matter how big, unexpected or painful your rug-ripping experience is… God is sovereign over all. Nothing surprises Him. And when we are at our most unbalanced and weakest– that is when we are closest to God.

Restored Daily,
SGK

“He got us out of the mess we’re in and restored us to where he always wanted us to be. And he did it by means of Jesus Christ.” ~Romans 3:24 MSG

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Peace by Piece

Sometimes you have to be knocked down to get your balance. Or perhaps you need to be broken into pieces before you experience real peace.

I love it when God reveals concepts in a new and fresh way… which is exactly what happened to me last week.

My emotions, fears, hopes, feelings have been all over the board in the last couple of weeks. But during my quiet time last Thursday, God gave me a revelation that literally changed my life.

The amount of peace in your life is directly proportionate to the extent in which you trust God.

Let me say it again: The amount of peace in your life is directly proportionate to the extent in which you trust God. 

This was a thwack in the nose for me. DUH. Why, oh, why, had I never understood this? I had been praying for peace with everything going on in my life and God answered with “Well then, trust me more, my daughter.”

OH SNAP.

As I processed this concept, I thought of those balance scales that we used in math and science class in elementary school. You remember, the ones that you would put a certain gram weight on one side, the have to figure out how to balance it out on the other side?

With this trust-peace concept, I imagine we are sitting near one side. We have little “grams” of Trust we put on the scale. God is sitting close to the opposite side and each time we place a trust gram on the scale, He IMMEDIATELY gives us a Peace gram on the other side to keep things balanced.

We have NO CONTROL over the things that are going to happen in our lives. Zippo. Nada. Which means we can’t directly control the level of peace and comfort in our heart.

HOWEVER… (don’t you just love the “however dot, dot, dots? I love God clauses.) However… we CAN control the amount to which we trust God. If we give Him all our trust, He in return gives us peace. In equal balance.

Is your trust-peace scale balanced? Or is it completely empty, flopping about in the wind, letting gravity do its own thing? In what ways can you lay down your worries, your troubles, your fears, your need for control and TRUST God more fully? I don’t know about you, but I have had to intentionally trust God multiple times a day to receive the Peace He has waiting for me.

Honestly, I still kinda stink at remembering to TRUST God 24/7. But I’m getting better. (I never was very good at math…)

Remember that with each piece of trust we give Him, He gives us Peace in return. That’s what I call a wonderful life balance… Gaining Peace by Piece.

One Peace at His Time,
SGK

“May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.” –Romans 15:13

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