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I’m not the Lord of my Life… (Thankfully!)

I am not the lord of my life… THANK GOD.

I type those words with ease, because if I was lord of my life,  I would be in serious trouble.

But there was a time (not too long ago, might I add) that I really was TRYING to be my own lord. It wasn’t extremely obvious. It’s not like I was building little golden Sharita-idol statues to put around my house and sell on Amazon. (That would be so awkward.) However, I WAS trying to do all, control all, be all to everybody.

And as lovingly as God crafted me, I am NOT made for that.

Neither are you.

Everywhere you look, we find “self-help” books. Admittedly, I have a few on my bookshelf in my dining room from my previous “Me-me-me-I-can-do-it-all” days. Sure, there are a few good tips in there– but our efforts mean NOTHING without God’s involvement.

Having control of everything/everyone in life can quickly become an idol or obsession. When we think our efforts are the end-all-be-all, we leave God out of the equation… And most of the time, we find ourselves stressed, exhausted, frustrated and facing defeat.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I am not making a proposition that we all quit our jobs and move to the Bahamas, spending our remaining days on earth basking in the sun drinking little umbrella drinks. (Unless God is calling you to do that… In which case, I would appreciate an invite to crash on your couch for a week.) Our hard work is necessary but insufficient without God. We are in a partnership with God. To collaborate, seeking His strength and guidance while we carry out His purposes.

If you have been around 7 Days Time very long, you know that I am predisposed to being a worrier (coupled with my desire for control. Super fun. Sigh.) But when it comes to lordship over our life, we can release both worry and control and let God do His thing instead of thinking we should/have to do it all.

In order to help with this example, I have made a list.. (Me? Make a list? No way!) It’s essentially a list of what I can/am called to do/should control versus what God’s responsibilities are.

Here we go…

My responsibility: To love my husband and Biblically submit to Him
God’s responsibility: Equip my husband to love me like Christ loved the Church

My responsibility: Take care of my daughter by feeding her, clothing her, loving her
God’s responsibility:  Protect her, guard her, and be with her in ALL situations

My responsibility: Blog and minister with faithfulness and passion through 7 Days Time
God’s responsibility: Bring the people and soften their hearts to hear His word

The list can go on and on and on… but I tell you what- when I clarify MY responsibilities in life compared to what God’s Lordship responsibilities are over me, it is such a relief.

It’s not all up to me. I am not the Lord of my life. 

The best part about all of this is that while I am incapable doing all these things alone, God is there with us. He loves it when we invite Him into our day and say “Ok, God. I am going to work hard for you, but I know my efforts are insufficient without you. I’m gonna need your help.”

What would your list look like? Where do you struggle when it comes to defining your vs. God’s responsibilities? I would love to hear all about it– comment below!

So today, friends, lets admit (and rejoice) in the fact that we are not the lord of our life.

Praise the Lord for His Lordship,

 “I am the Lord your God, who brought you out of Egypt, out of the land of slavery. You shall have no other gods before me.” -Exodus 20:2-3 NIV

To do list...

What’s on my list… vs God’s list?
(Photo via Vic @ Flickr)

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The High-Way (Guest Blog)

There’s something you should know about me.

 I’m kind of a nerd.

 Not quite a nerd of Steve Urkel magnitude, but a little bit of a nerd nonetheless.

I love inky pens, journals, and most office supplies in general. I treat books as old friends, totally dig résumé editing, and while I despise numbers, nothing gets me more excited than formatting a color-coded spreadsheet. Oh, and I listen to army cadence while working out.

 Wait. What?

Army cadence is awesome. Maybe it’s because I’m married to a U.S. Army Infantryman. Or maybe because the beat is the bomb diggity. Or maybe I’m just a nerd.

My beloved husband recently got done with a two-year duty of being a drill sergeant. During that time, I learned a lot of cadences. Here’s a little piece of one of my favorites: (Try to yell this in your head in a marching, rhythmic tone…)

“Just the other day I heard a drill sergeant saaaaayyyy… It’s my way or your way and your way’s the highway.”

Hmmm… It’s my way or your way and your way’s the highway. Think about that… While it’s a fun play on words, revamp the context a bit and this catchy phrase also has significant application in our walk as Christians…


Curious as to where I am going with this post? (Yeah, I was too while it was in the making…) Then pop on over to my dear friend Laurie’s blog to see how this army cadence has to do with our Christian walk. It will be worth it. I promise 🙂

Taking the High-Way Today,

“As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.” ~Isaiah 55:9

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The Power of Mind Control

I’ve always heard that mind is a terrible thing to waste.

I also believe that a mind is terribly hard to control.

Seriously. Maybe you have the ability to control your thoughts all mastered, but I sure don’t. One tiny event, action, news story or comment from someone can send my otherwise Christ-centered, balanced, content and peaceful mind spinning in the wrong direction faster than a merry-go-round on an elementary school playground.

And the enemy of my soul absolutely LOVES it. Gives him great material to work with. Jerkface.

Let me give you an example…

Let’s say I’m out for a run and I hear sirens. No big deal, right? As long as I have my everything focused on Christ, yeah, it’s no big deal. But sometimes my woman brain kicks into motion before I even realize what is happening. I hear the siren, and I think, “I wonder where it’s going” which turns into “I hope they are ok” which turns into “It sounds like it’s headed in the direction of where my husband works (which is a huge place)” which turns into “What if my husband is hurt/was in an accident/etc” and BOOM.

There I am. Worried about something that isn’t even legit. And worry is a sin because it shows that I am not trusting God with my day/life/plans.

BAH. It’s such a frustrating cycle to break.

Then of course the Enemy gets involved and tries to play up my fears/worries/insecurities/need to control/etc.

It’s precious. (Not.)

Scripture says A LOT about the power of mind control. (No, not controlling OTHER people’s minds… controlling our own thoughts.) Romans 8:6 says, “The mind of sinful man is death, but the mind controlled by the Spirit is life and peace.”

Pretty simple, huh? The mind of us as sinners equals death… But when we let God control our minds, we experience constant life and peace.

What consumes your mind, controls your life.

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You all know that I am a sucker for analogies, so I liken this concept to the airport security system. Our thoughts are the carry-on bags going through the nifty little X-ray machine… and Jesus is the TSA agent. We need to let Him sort through our thoughts and decide if they pass the test of worthy, holy, and pure. The yucky ones that don’t make the cut? Yep, they are confiscated. Junked. Trashed. Deleted. Whatever you want to call it– they are GONE.

2 Corinthians 10:5 reminds us of this truth as well. “We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.”

So what do we do when our minds start to spin out of control? Well, we can run it through the Jesus filter. It has worked pretty well for me as of late… I often refer to Philippians 4:8~ “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”  

If your thoughts that pop into your head don’t fit any of those descriptors, more than likely they are junk. Don’t give the enemy a foothold by thinking about the yuck that we have no control over. Instead, we can take every thought, run it through our nifty little Jesus filter and take it captive to Christ.

Now THAT is the power of mind control… Through Christ.

Minding Jesus,

“As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.” ~Isaiah 55:9 NIV

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Because Sometimes God Has Other Plans (Vlog)

Today we are changing things up a bit… And I am trying my hand at another vlog (aka video blog.)

Sometimes things don’t go our way… but take heart. It could be an incredible blessing in disguise!

(If you can’t view this video in your email, click here.)

When have your plans and God’s plans not quite matched up? How did you react? I would love to hear all about it– you know the drill… Leave a comment below.

Today let’s rejoice that yes, sometimes God DOES have other plans.

Praying that His Plans Prevail,


“I have it all planned out—plans to take care of you, not abandon you, plans to give you the future you hope for.” ~Jeremiah 29:11 (MSG) 

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